Using a condom every time you have sex is a cornerstone of the Be Boss outlook.
Wait, what? Every time?
Yeah. Here’s why:
Bosses are leaders and managers. They have responsibilities — to themselves first but to everybody else, too. That includes sex partners.
Sex is supposed to feel good. Condoms have a reputation for messing with that: People say they feel strange and reduce the sensations that make sex so much fun in the first place.
But it doesn’t have to be that way. Choosing the condom that works best for you and using it right can juice up your sex life.
A condom also takes a lot of the worry out of sex because it can prevent unwanted pregnancies and sexually transmitted infections (STIs).
Worry is the last thing you want when you’re getting down with that special somebody.
Here’s how to get rid of the worries and have the most fun with a condom:
Sexy-and-safe condom technique
As a Boss, you’re responsible for two things: maximum pleasure and proper technique. Here’s how to get both from a condom:
- Make sure the condom’s wrapper is airtight. Pinch it between your thumb and finger to see if the seal’s broken. If it is, throw out the condom and use another one.
- Open the wrapper with your fingers — not your teeth, a pair of scissors, or anything else sharp or pointy. You don’t want to pierce or cut the condom.
- Remove the condom, put your fingers on the rim and give it a little pinch to make the end pop out.
- Add a bit of lube on the inside — that’ll boost your pleasure.
- Unroll the condom down around the penis. You might want to practice this a couple of times in advance so you’re ready to roll when the time arrives.
- Add lube to the outside so it’ll go in easier.
- Go for it!
Never reuse a condom. Use a new one every time you have sex.
Choosing the right condom
Condoms work much better if you choose the kind that fits your lifestyle and your equipment.
These are some of your condom choices:
- Ribbed and studded condoms: These are built to improve sensation and pleasure.
- Latex or non-latex condoms: Most condoms are made of latex, which is fine for most people. But if you or your partner has a latex allergy, you have to use one made of polyurethane.
- Novelty condoms: Some are flavored, some have fun colors. Others can be ultra-sensitive, or extra lubricated. They’re tons of fun, and can help spice things up.
- Lambskin condoms: These feel more natural, but you pay a price: They don’t block STIs and they’re not much good at preventing pregnancies.
- XL and snug fit: Comfort is key so you always want to make sure the condom you’re using has the right fit. You want it to fit tight, but not restrict blood flow. If your condom is too tight it may stretch and break, if it’s not tight enough it may slip off during sex. Extra-large and snugger fit condoms are available if a regular condom doesn’t fit right.
Loving the lube
Lube (short for lubricant) can make all the difference in having sex with a condom. That’s especially true with anal sex — those muscles are super strong so you need lots of lube to get them to relax and open up.
Here are the basic rules of lube with condoms:
- Don’t use oil-based lubes. Vaseline and baby oil are out. The oil can weaken a condom and cause it to break.
- Use water- or silicone-based lube. Water-based lubes wash off easier than silicone-based lubes, but silicone lube lasts longer. Either one works fine; it’s a matter of what you like best.
- Be generous. Slather on plenty of lube — the more the better.
Choosing and lubing condoms mostly comes down to what you and your partner like best.
You don’t have to pay for condoms
A Boss is always scouting for ways to economize. How about scoring some free condoms?
You can pick up a variety of free condoms and lube at Circle Health Services.
You’re the boss of your body. If you have a question or concern please contact us for information about STI testing and treatment or other health services.
You’re the Boss of your body. If you have a question or concern please contact us for information about STI testing and treatment or other health services.
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Cleveland, Ohio 44106